Mylar Melodies explaining why we should not be attaching external validations to our hobbies.
There’s a really good book called Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman, a book that I’ve read three times now and if you’re over 40 I cannot recommend enough. It’s basically about the sort of mortality midlife crisis that you have when you enter your 40s. About am I doing enough? Am I going to get it all done? I’m going to die someday is when you start realizing because you’re like I’m halfway through. So you panic about am I doing enough. Have I done it all? Am I getting it all done?
Basically the short answer of the book is, you will not get it all done and one of the things that it expounds is the notion of having a hobby and having a hobby that isn’t something that you’re good at. In fact, it goes so far as to say that actually not being good at the hobby is half of what makes the hobby good because you’re just doing it for its own intrinsic rewards. You’re not doing it as a side hustle. You’re not doing it for points. You’re not doing it as a thing you’re going to grow into this business, because by attaching all of this sort of stuff to it, all these obligations, these sort of like expectations, you turn something that is supposed to just be intrinsic.
Something that’s just a thing you love and do because you’re alive and you get to enjoy doing things you love while you’re alive. It turns it into something that has like expectations attached to it and that colours it because you’re then thinking well I should only be doing something that’s going to like make my life better or like you know improve you know that I’m building towards it’s going to be a hustle it’s going to earn me money someday. Don’t worry it’s not a waste of time. I’m not wasting my time. But you’re not wasting your time because the point of life is just to enjoy yourself and to live a fulfilling life in whatever form that takes it’s different for everyone. But what I’m saying is it’s really important to have things that you just enjoy doing intrinsically.


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